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Post by Flame on Oct 27, 2010 10:28:45 GMT -8
I've decide not to see my dad anymore... Not forever or something, just a while, three months or so. He and his sweetheart is often fighting, and me and her daughter can't really get on well with each other. Their little son who's 1 year old am i very sadly too not see, but every second weekend is destroying the rest of my life. And now, i don't know how to explain why i don't want to see him, because i think he can misunderstand it. He don't understand it, and think we're only skipping a weekend, and i can't get him to understand, and the words, who's normally jumping up in my mouth and down in my fingers, is now letting me alone. There's also very many things i'll miss, friends and other peoples, and things my mother never will do together with me. But it's so hard. I don't know what's best for me.
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Post by Drea on Oct 27, 2010 18:13:15 GMT -8
I know how you feel. It can be hard to try and explain things to people, especially because you're afraid they'll take it the wrong way, and you can't seem to figure out what to say because there aren't really words for it.
What do you mean by missing your friends and the things you do with your mom? Is your father affecting your relationship with friends or is it because you've decided not to see him for a while, or something else?
It is hard to know what is best for you, because you really don't know. You just have to go with what you think is the best thing. If you are really upset when you're around your father, you probably should take some time away from him, because otherwise you'll just go further and further into the hole.
If you don't want to talk that's fine but remember we're all here for you and want you to be happy.
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Post by Flame on Oct 28, 2010 6:43:16 GMT -8
Yes i know, and i can be happy most of time. That with my friends is because it takes 4 hours to get over to my father, and my mom is sometimes a little... absent-minded. And she got a lot to do. My father has more free-time. But i think he had understanded it now. And it helps a lot to know there's someone who knows how i feel
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Post by Drea on Oct 28, 2010 19:33:45 GMT -8
Four hours is a long time. O.O But I'm sure it will be okay.
Yes, it is... it is hard to feel alone.
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Post by gabzo95 on Oct 30, 2010 20:00:10 GMT -8
Flame that is so sad. Trust me I do know how that feels. I am someone who is very sensitve. I have problems with my mother. My dad isn't that good but still compared to my Mother. Me and you it's like if it is the oposite. My mom is kind of like your dad, and My dad as your mom.
I had already left my house once.... but that is a long story. I actually have to live with my mom and only see my dad once every 2 weekends. My mom is so bad sometimes that she is affecting my schooling. She wants all my homework done by 10:00 pm and dosen't believe me when it isn't. During the week I get way to much homework and I am not the only one. My friends the same.
Back to main subject.
To know what to do search after waht you desire. Think everything out while following your desire. Take your time to think on situations like this. (that is if your gut instict confuses you). Sometimes your heart will tell you one think and your brain another but those are storms that you will have to go through.
If you ever want to share something we wil always be there for you. If you have no one to talk to come on here and we will do our best to help you. (everyone who wants to help. Not directed towards someone specific). Lot's of problems will go through your life and it's always best to get help.
I hope you the best and don't forget "it is always darkest before dawn" An english Proverb.
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